From the time we meet I remember how much you wanted to be a dad. I remember how so much of what you talked about centered around your hopes for having children in the future. Your desire for fatherhood is one of the things that made me fall in love with you.
We didn’t reveal to each other the wedding vows we had separately written before our wedding day but when we got to the alter we both vowed that any children that came from our marriage we would raise in the nurture and admonition of the Lord. We were so looking forward to getting to be parents!
I remember the first month we got married you were disappointed we hadn’t gotten pregnant yet! The second month you were thrilled with the news that you were going to be a dad.
Fatherhood instead became a road of pain, grief and confusion as we both had to learn what it meant to parent a child that was in heaven instead of with us. You were and are a good dad to Titus by the way you cared for me and kept us together.
1 year and 3 months later you got home from a night shift and I got to tell you that you were a dad again. The following March your princess was born.
Tanner, I have never seen a father daughter relationship any where like the relationship you and her have. I remember all the hours when I was pregnant with her that you spent making her bedroom beautiful and picking out dresses and buying the best and softest cloth diapers you could find!
Because of the emergency situation that happened after she was born I couldn’t be with her but I felt a total peace because you were with her. Her first photos, bath and skin to skin you got to experience and I although I feel sad for me that I missed out on that I don’t feel she missed out on anything because she had you.
Everything you do in your day to day life and every decision you make you base off of what is best for your family. You truly give your life for your family.
Your patience and your kindness during the sleep deprivation of parenthood far outweighs my own!
I love the way it looks so easy for you to put aside everything and just be present with our children to do whatever it is they want to do. You are their favorite play mate.
When our second son was born I named him after you because if he grows up to be a man like his daddy, I will be a proud mommy and the future world will be a better place.
When T.J had feeding problems in the NICU, you lovingly syringe feed him one tiny drop of milk at a time.
Before going in for the c-section I said to you, “if anything happens and I can’t hold him after he is born please make sure you do skin to skin contact with him on your chest. That’s really important to me that he has that.” And as soon as you were able to you did and I love you for that.
I’m thankful today and every day that our children are being raised by a man of integrity like you. I’m thankful I can say to my son, be a man like your daddy. One day when our daughter is grown I’ll tell her to look for a man that will treat her as well as you treat her and me. You set a pretty high bar!
Thank you for all the hours and difficult shifts you work to provide for your family. And thank you that after getting up at 4:30 a.m, at 8:00 at night you are playing one more game of hide and seek before rocking our four year old to sleep like a baby because you just want another chance to hold her.
It’s so cliche to end this letter like this but the saying is true, the only thing better than having you as my husband is our children having you as their father.
Happy Father’s Day! I love you!
Psalm 103:13 “Like as a father pitieth his children. so the LORD pitieth them that fear him.”